This morning I awoke and when I checked my email I had a sad update from a friend sharing that her 10.5 week ultrasound showed no more baby. How heartbreaking!
Sadly, my friend and her husband are far from alone in facing such pain. Just a few minutes after reading her email, I saw a post “When Motherhood Hurts” by Kate Conner (a girl I knew in college). She wrote poignantly about being at the OBGYN waiting to hear her baby’s heartbeat when a friend of hers texted saying: “I’m either having a miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy. I’m sorry, I just couldn’t call. Please pray for us this morning.”
Kate wrote that, “In that moment everything about motherhood seemed arbitrary and upside down and unfair.” For the many friends and relatives I’ve know who struggled to conceive and who have lost pregnancies, I’m certain that the pain is acute and that in many cases it feels downright unfair. My heart breaks for these women and their families.
As I sit here struggling to know how to respond to my friends’ pain, I am also awed by her willingness to proclaim “God is still good!” She and her husband are fixing their eyes on Jesus (as they should), but in spite of incredible sorrow. In these horrible situations, God is still on his throne, he is still rich in mercy and love and as I was reminded this morning as I continued studying in 2 Corinthians, he “comforts those that are cast down.” Our God is a comforting God. Earlier in the book, he is called the “God of all comfort,” and John chapters 14-16 talk about the role of the Holy Spirit, also referred to as the comforter.
In this life we may never come to understand why tragedies like miscarriages happen, but we can remember that God is faithful and unchanging. And we can pray that He comfort our friends and loved ones who are reeling from loss.